Do your goals and dreams always feel just out of reach?
If you ask someone what they want they may look and think for a bit and be able to come out with what they don’t want, but not exactly what it is they really want for themselves and in their lives. Think about this for yourself.
A lot of times we voice what it is that we don’t want with the intention of it bringing that which we want in to our lives. Unfortunately the Universe will not hear the "don’t want", it just hears the item or feeling that we have voiced.
If you want a red car and say I don’t want a blue car, the chance is that only blue cars will come up. Same if you say I don’t want a relationship with someone who is selfish, the people who will come into your life will be the selfish ones.
To get what we want we must be clear on exactly what it is that we want and only focus on that, and thats not necessarily the opposite of our don’t wants. Think what it is exactly that you want.
Using the car analogy, I want a red Mercedes with all the options available and a pale leather interior.
This is then what you focus your attention on and the universe will hear Red Mercedes, fully optioned and pale leather interior.
When you say these words this is also what you will picture in your mind and your sub consciousness will also be hearing this.
Same when we want to have more of a particular feeling in our lives. We say what it is that we want and imagine ourselves having the feelings that go with what we want. Our conscious and sub conscious will pick up on these vibrations and we will be more inclined to see and feel these around us.
The hardest job is retraining ourselves to only focus on the positive that we want. One of the best ways to help get into this way of thinking is to surround yourself with others who are also focusing on the positives in their lives. Choose to spend time with people who will let you know when you are drifting towards the negative and loosing your focus.
As you become more aware of your thoughts and how they can affect your life will, it becomes easier to stay focused on your goals and the outcomes you want.
Do you really get nothing done in a day? Is that "To Do" list always glaring at you?
We grow up hearing what we need to do all the time. Once one task is completed it's on to the next without a real sense of achievement.
To get from the beginning to the end of a day there are so many little things that we do and don't even notice or acknowledge that we've done them. Though if any of these things don't happen or are only partially done, it would have a flow effect for the rest of our day.
As a mum my weekday mornings get pretty busy. Getting my boys up, dressed, breakfasted and out the door to school on time.
Looking back it's amazing how much has changed over the last few years.
Going through old photos, it became apparent that I have grown so much and my outlook on life has changed immensely over the last 3 years. My children have grown, I have traveled to exotic places, I have learnt lots and gained new skills, and I have also had some quite challenging events the most significant being my husband leaving and being separated.
We can never know exactly what is going to happen in the future, only plan how we would like it to be. Looking back at the past can help us to make those plans for the future by selecting which parts we would like to grow and expand on, and those which we would like to avoid, and make our plans accordingly. Going through a picture record or a diary is a great place to start.
For me the events of the last few years have made me stronger and more resilient. I have learnt to take greater responsibility for what happens for me. The saying "If it's going to be it's up to me!" comes to mind. Even the most challenging events have had a positive outcome, because without them I would not be who I am today.
In looking back and setting my goals for the coming year, there was one question that kept coming to mind. Was I passionate about what I had been doing, Did I get up in the morning looking forward to my day?
The answer that came back was "Yes, But……..something is still missing"
2012 will be the year to add the something thats missing. I love talking to people and helping them to gain more control over their lives. At the moment I do this on line and via the phone. 2012 will see this extending to workshops for individuals following the transformational curriculum I use. Over the year this will expand according to the needs of the people in my circles.
I will also be going back to complete my studies in massage. I came so close to completing it a long time ago and gave it all up, making excuses for a way out of getting the qualification. Yes, it was something I was passionate about and, dare I say, good at.
Being true to ourselves and following our passions keeps us eager for life and growing. When we give up and allow what we love to slip away, a part of us goes with it; often times it is also that part of our selves that others see and appreciate us for that goes too.
Follow your passion and smile at the challenges as they will only be challenges for a short time.
Wishing you all a Fabulous New Year and All your dreams to come true in 2012.
Who will you be buying for this Christmas?
Every year my sons class has a Kris Kringle where each child buys a present for someone else in the class. They're not allowed to spend more than $5. You can imagine. there's not a lot that you can get for $5 these days.
This year the Grade 3's are doing something different. Instead of giving each other a present, they're combining their efforts and giving something to a family and community not as fortunate as themselves. There are 56 children in grade 3, with each of them putting in $5 thats a total of $280.
